Three 2020 Life Lessons Courtesy Of My Frayed Cell Phone Charger

Gary Miller
3 min readSep 1, 2020

Life imitating cell phone chargers…

I was sitting at my desk yesterday hammering the phones for work when I noticed my iPhone charger.

It’s funny what you don’t notice when you’re in your own “fog of war”.

I couldn’t help but think, what a perfect visual for the last 6 months.

I don’t just post the highlight reel on my online feeds. I’ve railed against the concept of just posting the greatest hits in life and business because I think such lies of omission are more than a little problematic.

True story… this frayed charger is the last 6 months.

In 2020 I think everyone has their version of frayed.

2020 has been a mess. I looked at our laundry list of trouble and couldn’t help but think, WOW, you couldn’t write this as fiction.

From business upheaval to health challenges. I mean really, I’m still trying to figure out how in the world I got on the wrong side of a retinal vein occlusion and macular edema and having needles in my eye every 60 days??? And these are just the tip of the iceberg.

Now before you think I’m posting this for a cheap “Amen” or comment love, I’m not. I’m posting it because I want to share this with you.

The Message In The Mess

All this mess… I can honestly say… I’m grateful for every drop of it.

Don’t confuse that… I don’t like it. I hate (strong word on purpose) some of these unique challenges I’ve faced.

But… I’m grateful for what they’ve helped/forced me to do.

1) It helped me have hard conversations.

Not hard as in knock down drag out sessions. Hard as in raw and honest. With my wife, my kids, some carefully chosen mentors, God, and most importantly myself.

I think a lot of us are just numb enough to never actually have hard conversations with ourselves. Part of hard conversations is affirming what actually is. Jim Rohn said, “You have to affirm the truth. If there are weeds in the garden you have to acknowledge it.”

Gary Miller

Husband, father, insurance guy. Writing about life and leadership